Transforming Hurtful/Hard Words Into Helpful Ones

Transforming Hurtful/Hard Words Into Helpful Ones

What do you do with hurtful or hard words from others? While part of me likes to ruminate on them, defend myself, and/or formulate comebacks that will “show them”, my real self knows there’s a better way: Reframing. Beginning with the awareness...
Good is Enough (and So are YOU!)

Good is Enough (and So are YOU!)

Good is enough … and so are YOU! In middle school I yearned to be a championship winning NBA player. In high school I planned to win a Nobel Prize. In college I intended to be rich. In the air force I worked to make a name for myself. In trying to be a pastor, I aimed...
GMa’s Gift of Inspiration

GMa’s Gift of Inspiration

My grandma Pearlette, lovingly called “GMa”, turned 90 this month. Which means she grew up during the Great Depression and WWII. It blows my mind how much she had to do to get a good education and establish herself in the world! What is more, when my dad...
Trust the Goodness

Trust the Goodness

“I wish I had a relationship like that.” In our nearly 5 years together, people have said some form of that to Lisa and I more times than I can count on my fingers and toes. While I don’t believe in formulas when it comes to relationships, I...
From Finger-Pointing and Fighting to Forgiving

From Finger-Pointing and Fighting to Forgiving

What would the world look like if we switched from finger-pointing and fighting to forgiving? What would change in your life? Honestly, many of the most debilitating and painful moments in my life came when I didn’t forgive someone (or myself), or when I authentically...